Quote: LL, I think your h may have been asking you to put your ring back on. He was asking without asking. When he says he hasn't asked you to put it back on because he hasn't found the right time or the right way, sounds to me like he thinks he can't do it the way he thinks you would think is the right time or right way.
I'd like to think your right...but...I can't...I can't accept that he was asking me to put my ring back on because the rest of his conversation was about not being sure if he could be with me as my husband.
he has not been able to find the right time or the right way because he is not sure if it is what he wants or not...actually the reason I am not overly excited about his sudden willingness to go to c..is because he is hoping that there he will find an answer as to whether or not he wants to or can be with me.
had I taken his statment to mean he wanted me to put my rings back on...neither he nor I would be content with that. it really wouldn't mean much to me given his current mindframe...when he's sure that he wants to be with me he will ask and I will put them back on.
of course he doesn't like that I don't wear them..but it doesn't say a lot to me..because he didn't like that I took them off when he left..while he wanted a d..while he was in love with someone else..etc...
the ring wont mean anything to me until there is a meaninful commitment behind it..and right now it's a wishy washy one.
it'd be like someone proposing to someone saying "I'm not sure I want you to be my wife...but will you wear this ring I'm proposing to you with?"
