Quote: One other thing I think or at least believe is true for my h, and correct me if any of you men think I'm wrong for this general statement.....I think that sex is the way men connect. I think that could be your H's way of being close to you. I know that you need to have another type of closeness and that sex alone won't cut it, but it could be helpful. You can't help but to promote good feelings about someone, when you touch and careess and "get pleasure" It's good for the mind and body.
I agree with this statement...completely...but then believing it makes me angry...h was in love with this woman..had a connection with her..enough so that he considered leaving his wife and kids..to persue a life with her..how then if it is true that men feel close by being physical...can I believe my h when he tells me they did not have a physical r..that they did not kiss...or carss or hold hands...that he only hugged her when she broke down on occasion over her illness????
I want the emotional r...what I always complained about in the past was the lack of a physical r with him (cause there was a major lack!!!) right now though I do want the physical (sexual) I mostly want the emotional...I want him to feel emotionally connected to me..there is no doubt in either of our minds that we are more than capable of fulfilling eachothers sexual needs..but there is more to a r than that.
I don't know it's an issue that has too many issues within it.
suppose I should just take h's advice and not analyze everything.
I wanted to know where his kiss was comming from last night..but I should realize that it was a kiss...and when he's just being horny..he doesn't start with a kiss.. stupid LL!!! I did make up for it this am though (well maybe not enough) when he was leaving he came to give me that obligatory peck on the cheek...I came over and gave him a big hug...hope that let him know.
