I haven't read it, but I bet Michele's "The Sex-Starved Marriage" might have some insight for you. Might want to look up some of Dr. Phil's books too.
Hey...guys are pretty clumsy with figuring out when to "go for it" and when not to. Hard to know when you gals want it and when you don't. Added to that the male libido is more powerful (and shortlived one might add). Often guys can't control their "primitive" impulses, particularly when they are with someone they truly love. It's something else guys need to be taught because we had pretty lousy role-models. We were never taught by our Dads to be respectful of a women's sexual needs (and lack thereof) or expectations. Guys also are pretty thin skinned around rejection. We don't handle it well. It's hard to distinguish between sex and love. Women see a clear distinction.
Quote: h sensed that wasn't what I wanted so stopped
Your H obviously has not only love, but deep respect for you. He knew when to back off. Give him credit for that.
Again, try not to expect him to understand your needs and expectations.
Hope this helps! I still think there's hope for you guys!!
