Well, probably the most honest and revealing thing you could have said would have been "I am ashamed that I allowed my feelings of lust and my desire for intimacy cause me to break my pledge because I want to be a man who keeps his word. I am also sorry that I made a pledge that honored a wish that I do not respect." not anything that implies "I am sorry I frightened you with my semi-rapist ways." or "I respect your desire to keep your breasts to yourself within our marriage." because it is not true that you believe yourself to be a semi-rapist and you do not respect her desire to keep her breasts to herself within a committed sexual relationship.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
