I don't really need to be smacked around for my position if that's what you're thinking, dry-heat. I have spent the better part of the last 2 weeks quietly seeking the answers I need as far as how to handle this. I dealt with my husband face to face on the matter yesterday and you know what? It's a huge pain in his ass to talk about D11's school and behavioral issues. He can't handle it. Won't listen. He just wants her to take care of it and then when she can't because of lack of guidance, he will drink his beers and spend 30 minutes berating her. He is treating her the way he used to treat me and I saw it with my own two eyes this weekend. And I'll tell you something else, too. She has become his enabler. She now makes excuses for him. She sits there with him bitching, and I see the look on her face. She's just waiting for this storm to pass so she can play again. I REMEMBER how that felt prior to my own MLC. He hasn't changed AT ALL.
So stew all you want but if blasting me is your intent, you are beating a dead horse. My husband will not respond to my faith in him, my hope, my tears, her failures or frustrations or even his own conscience and don't think for one minute it's not killing me realize that because it most certainly is.
