When to move back in together?

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Then I look over my calendar and remember all the things he told me, now realizing they were half truths or flat out lies.

I suggest you stop doing that. I did that for the longest time and now i'm glad I dont' have access to his calls or I'd still be thinking "when he said this , xyz was happening" and I'd bend out of shape. The A went on for so long, as much as you and I want to believe the A to be a fantasy there were real feelings involved. My H told me as much, he still has feelings...but that he hopes that they go away. Whapu told me something I bring up whenever the thought of my H feeling for her overwhelme me "he wants YOU to be the only one". He will have his period of mourning, so now it is prob very hard to start cutting contact w/her. My H was very anguished and torn about writing a goodbye letter to op ( I saw it ).

Yes, it is very scary, like that scene in Indiana Jones when there is no bridge and Indi knows for sure there is one but he can't see it... he closes his eyes, braces, and lifts his leg to take a step into the unknown.

Again, fear is your worst enemy. Fill your mind with positive thought, a great healing book I recommend everyone is "Healing the hurt in your marriage", it will help you deal with the anxiety and with resentment you will/are feeling.