My husband is derelict in every duty he has as a parent. He has forced me to be the only one that holds my daughter accountable for ANYTHING, from being a smartmouth to her schoolwork. He does nothing and yet sits there bitching about all he has to do. She is not his priority and he is allowing her to do whatever the flip she wants to do and that is coming to an end one way or the other.
She has zero organizational skills - didn't have all of her school supplies A WEEK AFTER school started, missed the second day of school because she could not make a choice as to what to wear when the original plan didn't pan out. She can barely finish a sentence before she starts a new one. She is hyperactive and she hasn't always been that way. I told Jeff over the weekend for instance that she couldn't do an essay while sitting on the backporch with the music blaring and him cutting grass or sitting there talking. I said that's the reason she's a scatterbrain, there IS TOO MUCH BULLSHIT going on all the time!
They have until Interims to show me something or I will file for specific visitation, which will instigate mediation, thus forcing him into parenting classes, etc...
I have had all I intend to watch of that man setting my daughter up to fail in life because he can't belly up and be a friggin MAN.
All of the years I have spent teaching her, directing her, instilling things in her have gone to hell in a handbasket in a matter of 9 months.
She is so far up her Dad's ass and just enjoying doing whatever the hell she wants to do that she now hates me because 9 times out of 10, seeing mom means ending up in a fight.
I have gotten myself a list of counselors from my insurance company today because I need help. Eventually, I'll bring D11 into counseling with me. For now, I have to go alone because I can't function anymore like this.
H is just gonna have to kiss my ass. I can not help him anyway and I am seriously concerned that I'm going to have a nervous breakdown if I continue trying to walk this line of not offending him and yet handling her behavior appropriately. It just can not be done. God knows I have tried. My resentment is growing tremendously and I am afraid I am going to snap. It is affecting my son too, at this point.
I really wonder just how freakin' long he thought I was going to let this go on?
Well, he'd better pull something out of his ass within the next 3 weeks or we'll be playing a whole new ballgame because I am 100% prepared to let my family become a part of the "system" now as opposed to waiting til my daughter becomes delinquent.
