A workable marriage does not HAVE to be completely healthy and functional, it just needs to be workable. This is the general idea I am pursuing in my M.
Okay, I get what you're saying but it's kind of depressing, right? I hope/plan to have passion and intimacy in my next LTR. I even see your point about how having a strong partner might help but I think the help is more found in mirroring or bouncing off the strength rather than being soothed or rescued. Even my short-term relationship with NG was helpful/healing to me in that way but it wouldn't have been if I hadn't been participating in this BB and trying to be self-aware about my behavior within a relationship or if he had tried to rescue me. Let me tell you, the internet is teeming with men who would be happy to rescue my bunny. One guy who wants to date me has a profile that says "Just give me one chance and I will never let you down." but ,luckily for me, I know better than to try to build a relationship on that kind of attraction. Therefore, what I would suggest is that instead of HD offering an "I'm sorry I frightened you." vibe, he should simply reflect back "When I put my hand on your breast, you felt frightened."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
