Quote: maybe though he says it him and not me...it is infact me..there is nothing I am doing that he doesn't like...he feels loved..he just doesn't feel like his love is being appreciated? he's not good enough for me?? etc.
LL - looks like you have his Love Language(s) down pretty well but he still hasn't gotten the clue as to yours? I think that you have been blindingly obvious to him - giving him the right clues - but somewhere in H's brain there is a disconnect. Possibly this is something that you can bring up in a C session with him. Maybe getting "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman could be very instructive for your H.
Does H feel that he's not good enough for you? That he doesn't deserve you? Shame is a very big millstone to hang around one's neck. Maybe reminding H that you do forgive him - not forget, not condone, but heartfelt forgiveness - could be the way to get H to shed that shame - that you have no intention of "keeping score."
When do you have the first C session set for him (or the two of you)?
