Mixed signals - catfan's continual saga part???

[Dom R]

Heya... nice to see something from you. sorry to hear that it is negative though.

she's thinking about dating because she wants adult companionship but supposedly only for conversation and not romance. Not sure I really believe that.

Nor should you. It makes no sense. If she wants "adult companionship", why isnt she looking for FEMALE FRIENDS, rather than "dating" ? If she wants conversation, why does she need to go on a "date", rather than in a group? more people == more "conversation". Nope, makes no sense.

And given that, why would you possibly believe that she wasnt really in an EA? That also, makes no sense.

What this suggests to me is:

1. the EA broke up.
2. she's in withdrawal from the romantic "high", and wants another hit
3. she wants more, and she cant get it from your old boring relationship; so, rather than going back to you, she's setting herself up for another "new, exciting romance" to get that feeling back again.

May I suggest, that you:

1. try to still keep a positive mental attitude
2. keep yourself as sharp and sexy as you can at all times
3. occasionally offer, but in no way pressure her, to do some fun activities together, while she hunts for "Mr. Next".

Perhaps you might be able to rekindle some interest in you, to the point where she will reconsider you for the position.