LL,

I think it might be easier to do all that stuff with someone with whom you don't have a history.

Could you act as if you don't have a history with him, and see how things go?

My gut says that you are taking those things too personnaly...

I've walked down the road of comparing my relationship with my husband to his relationship with his girlfriend (who didn't stop calling him even AFTER we got married! ) before we got married...did no good, just made me blind to the good things in our relationship. Could you be doing that too?

Hugs.

PIB