Have you constructed your own box to put me in? Why don't you just take my statement at face value that I am glad HD made a break through and that the key to understanding his W is to not see her as a cold hard enemy but a vulnerable child who wants and needs compassion?
Does my statement get too close to the truth for your comfort?
My point is that, in the long run but ASAP, HD needs to see his wife as a strong yet vulnerable woman (not a weak and needy child) who wants intimacy of all kinds. I am well aware of the fact that I have been in semi-denial of my bunny (but never my monkey - lol ) but the only person who can heal my child within is me. I can gain awareness through interactions with others but I'm the one who needs to "grow-up" bunny if I'm ever going to get the intimacy that I want rather than the compassion I might feel I need. You know quite well that any kind of "rescuing" is a manifestation of the "need to be needed" and therefore counter-productive unless you yourself crave compassion and security more than intimacy and passion.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
