Quoting lostlove: the issue is the "us" I don't want any more than your average person...I don't want to be doted on...I want a participatory r with someone...to be a friend to have a friend...to laugh and have fun...to share...to be able to touch and be touched (to not feel a fear of rejection) ------------------------------------------------------------ common guys is this really expecting to much of a r????
In healthy R where both partners are in a healthy emotional state, the answer is No, it not to much to expect. BUT , your H is presently not in a healthy emotional state so those expectation must be put on hold for now.
Quoting lostlove in a previous post: ...expressed last night and other times that he thought that was what being a good h and father was about..but is realizing it is not..he wants to be there for the kids..realizes that simply being here is not enough for them...they need interaction as do I. that even though it is enough for him to just be here it is not for them [ (sic) ... and you. ]
He has to resolve the issues he has with himself about being an inadequate partner in any R first.
The C consult is the first step in that direction. (Correction - second step - first step is that he recognized he needs help and seeks it to move in that direction.
