Like debtman7 says. YOU are holding on to HER. Still.
Let her go. do not HELP her get a divorce, but also do not come across as needing her, or as stopping her. Make her do the work, and take all the time you can on any and every response.
Do you want to continue to have a crappy life, or make it better? Whether she is around or not, you still have to live with - you.
