I have asked myself the same. I don't think I asked too much from my H (often caught myself thinking "come on, just throw me a bone, anything!" like you have). Problem is he offered so little on his own, and put in so little effort even when he did something, that my list of requests did look quite long.
What I really wanted, above all else, was to feel like we were on the same team, supporting each other no matter what. I didn't feel that, well not for a long time anyway!
