Unfortunately, even with the divorce he can bring the kids to OW's house. You can't stop whatever possible emotional damage, or unhealthy perception of relationships and marriage the kids may develop. All the blame and anger won't change it. Don't waste your breath on that.

Do the kids know he's "seeing" OW? Maybe you need to explain to them exactly what's going on and prepare them for divorce. Perhaps you can let your husband know that you both need to have this talk together with the kids. Although not today! Do it later in the week. Think about how you plan to explain it. I think the sooner you deal with the eventuality of divorce and the consequences, the better you'll be able to handle it. And don't you file for it. If you really want to go through with this tell your H he needs to file.


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