I concur with what lester says. You're going to have to be very, very patient. She may not say it, she may not even realize it herself, but she is waiting to see if you are genuinely committed, or if you get tired of being in limbo.
Go ahead with IC if she won't go to MC. Don't hide it from her but don't make a big deal out of it, like you're trying to show that you are "working on yourself." You might tell her that you would prefer MC, but you understand if she isn't ready for that.
