Jethro makes a good point. I get the sense that your H is overwelmed and doesn't have the self-esteem to believe he has it within him to turn it around. He can't talk to you about it because he fears you cannot react to it in a positive light - will lose respect for him, think he's weak, whatever ... which started him down the path to hopelessness and IMO he has come close to resigning to it.
