If I am the one?

[lester]

I wanted to mention something here. While it's great that you came back and want to work on your marriage. You will never be able to approach an understanding of how much you have hurt her. I'm not trying to be mean but to give you a strong dose of reality. She may or may not take you back. Go to counseling and do what you need to to improve yourself but in the end you have to live with the consequences if it don't go your way.

Maybe if you told her that you have grown up some and accept full responsibility and consequences that would probably mean more than being nice or counseling. As a struggling survivor myself (I hate the word victim it implies I have no power) more than any thing I would appreciate an adult attitude of "hey I [censored] up and if you don't take me back I understand... that's what I deserve" from my wife.

Hope for the best.. just realize it may or may not come.

Just my $.02