Quote: Working hard should not take the place of relationships, but it should be appreciated and recognized for the sustenance it offers families. Have you expressed your appreciation about this and other things he has done?
yes, I have often.
Quote: All I'm saying is for you to keep your eyes and heart open, not just your ears. Watch and feel him, don't just rely on words.
I am feeling him go through the motions...but not toward me...I am feeling him moving away from me...a hug would be nice...him to return to sleeping in our bed would be nice...but once again he is falling asleep on the couch and may or may not find his way up to the bed by morning. the distance is growing...though now he is talking (only just last night and this evening) there is still a gap in us a huge gap that has grown over the past weeks.
Quote: And one final thing, I don't think it's a good idea to talk to your kids about your feelings about your husband. they're kids. What's happening in their lives is hard enough right now. Knowing mom is mad at dad is hard enough. Talking to them about it pulls them into the loop even more.
I didn't talk to him about it, I simply answered his question...son said are you angry...I said not at you sweetie...son said are you mad at daddy..I said a little...and that was the end of the discussion..I did not elaborate anything more..are you suggesting I should have lied to my son...let him see his mother angry..(and honestly there wasn't much to see..I happen to have an extremely intuitive 3 year old boy) and have her deny it...is it not ok to be angry with someone...son knows that people can be angry at him for something...should he be the only one around here that anyone gets angry at?? is it not possible for daddy to be angry with mommy or visa versa?? even in "happily" married families mommies and daddies are occassionally angry with eachother for whatever reason..whether she spent to much money or he forgot her birthday...should I just pretend to be an emotionless void around my children and not let them know people can be angry sometimes...for heaven sake anger is a basic emotion they teach it on sesame street...I've never sat and said to my son mommy is angry at daddy for x y or z cause frankly it's none of his little business.
Quote: you've been a real trooper and a major source of help to everyone on this board.
you don't even know how good that statement made me feel! thank you!!
