It really feels like she is going through the motions and not pursing me because she really loves me.
Marvin,
She may not be truely "high sex drive". She may or may not be truely "turned on". but the thing is.. she DOES love you. She loves you enough to try this now.
yes, you wanted it this way for a long time, and didnt get it in the timeframe you wanted. Dont let that make you bitter, and turn it down now that she is offering it to you.
I would suggest that you choose to accept it, and see if it lasts.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle