I agree on the not filing. I see what you are saying about having already "agreed" to be the one to file and how that may be perceived by her. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know that while initially - you thought that you could do it - but in actuality as you have had time to think about things - you realize that filing for S/D is not right for you and you want to fight and work on your marriage. While you will not stand in her way if that is what she chooses to do, you cannot be the one to file. If it makes you feel better, you can deposit some add'l money in her account and let her know that the choice is hers but that you are not filing. Who knows, maybe she'll just use the money to buy a cute pair of shoes? JK - Just some girl humor in there...
