Down and out...need hope.

[Not Much Left]

Tostada

Sorry you are here. However, I have some words of advice if you are willing to listen.

I truly understand your comments about making her leave. It is your house too. I am validating your opinion however, I have given this a tremendous amount of consideration having been through this now a few times. I think you might actually make a huge impression and do think it might make some sense if you said "I understand why you are feeling the way you are, I have thought about your request to live separately and I am considering honoring that request with me moving out for a while while we sort through this.

This would be a huge 180, no?
Listen to WAW, it would take a huge amount of pressure off her (she is wildy confused as you point out) and without it, I DONT THINK SHE WILL "SEE THE LIGHT AFTER A WHILE". I really dont. If she does, it may be the wrong light.

Time is on your side. I know what I am saying is not what you want to hear. I have no idea what your W is like, but unless she is the type to never speak up, she may see you in a different light with something like this happening and actually come to you later.

Thinks months here my friend, not days or weeks. Sorry, those are the stats.

Let me (us) know what you think here and we can talk through it together.

C