I'm glad you took the lead on that, and that it had such a positive result for you!
Keep up the good (and hard) work. As much as Rs can spiral downward, one failure feeding upon another, so too can they spiral UPWARD again. Each time you set a boundary -- and then enforce it -- not only does your W have to react to that (and I think we all feel that she will respond positively), but perhaps even more importantly YOU feel so much better about YOURSELF.
That then strengthens you to face courageously the NEXT boundary that needs to be defended, and so on, and so forth. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
