Almost a WAW

[Dom R]

Hey there Sandi...

Sounds like you are being very brave, and positive, compared to a few weeks ago.

Good Job!



I have a few words of what I hope will be encouragement for you:

First off, I think you are a Christian. So I will (re)mind you of something that He said, related to you saying the following:

BTW, I do know what to do that he likes........it is just that I can't seem to get the "want to". That is my main problem right now.

God call us to "love our neighbor" (and even more so, our spouses). But, He actually calls us to SHOW love, more than feel love. feeling love is good. but of the two, loving ACTIONS are the primary thing (initially anyway).
To take the extreme of enemies, He said "repay evil with good".
Not, "think nice thoughts about them." But actually DO GOOD. reguardless of how you feel about them.

You already started to Do Good, with your loving act of cooking for your H. That is so great!! I cant say enough of how wonderful it is, that you chose to take this step.

One thing that will help you with an actual "plan", is to not go too far, too fast. Dont fall into the "diet" trap, of going way overboard for a week, and then burning out. Eating nothing but celery for a week, is doomed to fail. So is making wellmeaning, but unrealistic plans like, "I'm going to cook for him every day!" Because you probably wont be able to stick to it, and then your H is going to be even more disappointed when it stops.

So, what you are doing now, sounds to be just right!
Little steps, that you can keep on doing. (for the rest of your lives together!)


PS: as far as his side, and words.. how do you like poetry?
Maybe you might ask him to pick a short romantic poem/sonnet and read one to you every once in a while.