LL, your H sounds a lot like mine did, he was very confused and depressed and hurting too. The difference is MY H would not go to C, we never did together, I went alone a couple times. So My H wouldn't go to C, and now we are 'piecing'. And gonna make it. i asked him this past Sunday if he wanted a D and he said No. Your H is not done with you and your M, just as I knew mine wasn't either. Let him be the one to file for D if that is what he wants. In the meantime you can still get your advice about finances, etc. Why should you make it easy for him? Lisa
