Quote: You're working on his timeline, not yours so be careful about getting too excited, going overboard and pushing him away again.
I understand this completely, it is frustrating...because this r has been on his timeline since day one...these are not new issues..these issues have been festering for 10 years and we have only been married for 5 of those ten...I know enough not to get to excited...infact I still plan to meet with the lawyer on friday...
h knows he is frustrating me...and admits that he if in my position..would probably be giving up too.
the fact that he is suddenly willing to go to c..is wonderful...but honestly doesn't give me all the comfort that I want. infact I had to ask him the purpose of going...was it to learn how to end the r...or try to repair it...at first his answer still was a circle with no answer either way...I pointed out that we would need to have some goal in mind in going as there would be different directions to go in depending on our desired outcome..so then h said...well then I guess to find a way to work on the r and stay together..
so you see...the vaugeness of his replies does not warrent a celebration...well maybe a little but I'm not doing any gopher dance till he asks me to put my ring back on.
LL and finally this mornig when h was leaving for work..(didn't leave til 11) I got a kiss on the cheek that led to three or four kisses on the cheek..I didn't know how to respond to them and was in a awkward position (on the floor at the puter with son at playhouse disney) so as he walked away toward the door...I got up and gave him a hug and said...it's ok to be scared...
we'll see what this week brings...I have hope but I'm staying on the fence.
