Oh yeah... 180's... She had been bugging me to quit smoking, so I had gone on Chantix... had been done for about 2-3 weeks when all this happened. I'm proud to say I have yet to go back and don't plan on it. I did drink quite a bit.. beer nightly. I don't think it was a big issue (she even said so), but I wasn't happy with it. Now I don't keep beer in the house. I will drink when I go out, but not at home unless it's a special occassion. I've also started working out and plan to continue to do so. I'm going to therapy on Wednesday and W has asked to call the same place. I have no issue with that either. I really need to get a plan in place and work on executing... I'm hoping the book will give me some guidance, but I've tried to start on my own. She's noticed already, but it's early... really just a week. I'm sure she's thinking "How long will this last" that's where I have to be dedicated... which I will.
Without the book, I keep seeing things about stopping pursuit. Am I in this zone? Being that we are friendly and all, I know she is lonely and wants attention.... which is what she gets from OM. I want to show her affection, but I don't want it to seem cheesy or desperate which I'm sure it does.
