Since we are living together still, it's very hard to know what to say or what to do. We are still hashing out the separation details and that does provide conflict. I'm not going to roll over, but I don't want to make things worse. It's fairly friendly at this point, but I want to keep it on the right track.
I'm supposed to file for separation today or tomorrow... we agreed I would do it because she can't afford to. She will be meeting with an atty today for a second opinion, but probably much won't change.
How do I communicate with her? There is tension... but there are times when she seems happy and interested. Then there are times when I have to reach out to her.
I've started leaving notes for her... she likes that. Although she didn't mention anything about the one this morning.
This will be odd as she works at the Daycare our kids attend. I will see her very often.. we've even agreed that I will watch the girls when she has school on one of her days. It's very friendly, I just want to do the right things to win her back.
She still talks (and probably sees) OM. I've stopped snooping (mostly) and have backed off of her on it. She likes OM because he listens to her and genuinely seems interested. He is also going through a divorce, so she feels sorry for him and they have something in common. I think he's using her because he's 41 and she's 26.
Ironically, a woman from my past shows up about this time. She found my email addr and pinged me to see how I was doing. She's recently divorced and has a 1 year old. I thought it would be nice to have someone to talk to since W isn't really talking to me. I informed W of this when she called one evening... that was not very well received which I expected. I've delayed talking with this woman in fear of upsetting the apple cart. I would only be friends and nothing more, but I know how perceptions work. W is very jealous. Should I use this other woman as bait, or will that just drive her away? I think I know the answer, I would just like validation.
As for DBing in my current situation... what is right?
