My question is - he hasn't left.. is he likely too? ============================ One could go crazy thinking of these things, would he? could he? tomorrow? in 2 months? No one knows, dont' live in fear of this, take it one day at a time. Yes, you are very hurt and right now nothing feels safe, it wont, for the longest time, you'll be waiting for the "other" shoe to drop. Don't try to get in his head nor try to guess the future. Work with what you have now, for your own sanity.
The book I mentioned, dont' know if that's the one you are refering to is called "the proper care and feeding of husbands" it is painful to read as it shows how many women let themselves go and put kids ahead of their Hs and push them away, it's done without malice but it damages many Ms.
If your H is not talkign and won't see a C you might just have to back away a bit and let him work things on his own. Make time, at least every other week to go alone, just the 2 of you for an activity, anything, dancing, yoga, biking, whatever. Even he there is no R talk (sometimes that's better) you start build a connection.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
