Howdy... great resource. I'm waiting on the Divorce Remedy book to arrive any day now. Move out day for the Wife and 2 kids (daughters, 5 & 3) is the 27th.

Here is my story so far:

Wife and I have had issues with our marriage... I understand now that I wasn't affectionate enough, but there were issues on both sides. Plain and simple, we just weren't happy together. We've seen counseling twice and neither of us really committed to doing anything.

2 weeks ago she went out with a GF from work and got too drunk to drive which is not her. They are teachers at a daycare, and one of the fathers showed up. He ended up giving her a ride home. Oddly enough, this guy is going through a divorce and my wife knows him and his kids relatively well.

A week ago, she goes out with GF again. At 0300, I get nervous and call her. No answer.. I call GF and she states that they are over at OM's house and he is showing her around. W says he is just a friend and it's no big deal.

The following evening, W goes out with GF again. This is key because she said she wasn't going to see OM and I caught her in a lie. She still says he is just a friend, but she is being very secretive about her phone.

Monday she says she wants to get separated.. and she isn't backing down. We've had ups and downs, but she went out last weekend and stayed out till 0400. I was supposed to be somewhere the following morning at 0730, so I called her at 0200. She was at OM's house with GF and GF's boyfriend. Again, she claims he's just a friend.

I've helped her get an apartment, went shopping with her yesterday for new bathroom stuff.. we've hashed out what stuff will be going over to her apt from the house. We've talked about kids etc.

I finally asked her what our status was.. does she want to date? Can we talk? She basically told me she was emotionally fried and doesn't want a relationship right now. She is willing to work on us, but she wants to take it VERY SLOWLY.

I don't have the book, but I'm struggling with what to do and how to react. I'll post a follow on with what's going on currently.. any help would be appreciated.