What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

We had a great weekend! We spent almost all weekend together with and without the kids. He was relaxed and happy and I almost want to cry and gush to him because it was the man I married and the man I saw back when we were happy. I miss those days so much. I don't think I should go overboard and tell him how great it was.....he seems to freak under pressure and want him to realize this at his own pace and his idea.

We had the kids Saturday night and we bbq'd and hung out. He actually even stayed, which he never does when the kids are here. He didn't want to give them the wrong impression. Maybe that wall is softening. Kids went back with other parents yesterday and he and I hung out, watched football and even went shopping and bought our first baby item......he wanted a snuggli.

He actually made comments about the future. I was thinking that I needed to get a bigger car again now with the baby coming, and he agreed. I was thinking Tahoe, but then he said 'well, we can't fit all 5 kids and a baby plus us in a Tahoe. Getting another Suburban would be best'. So obviously he is thinking about us being together as a family again sometime. I know stupid little things, but its nice to hear.

Now, the nuerotic part of me says.....take it easy. He can flip back at any moment. OW is still lurking and stalking. All is not fixed yet.

I want to believe that he is handling things with OW. But just 10 days ago I saw that he was contacting her, so its still fresh. He did completely blow her off on Saturday at the game and even kissed me in front of her. Trying to look at positives.

Thanks for all your help guys....this is so hard.