What I am afraid of finally came down to you. I am so sorry for your feelings. As anyone else, you can only hold on for so long without reciprocation from your loved one.
That aside, please think of Jim's advise again. Not out of vengence, but this is really what it takes before a guy (or a H, more precisely) would do things to your standard. Maybe it is the insensitivity of guys, no excuse for that, when he started to feel comfortable at home. That is just an unfurtunate traditional role that has made us. Without a better model and coaching, ordinary, hard-working guys like him and me would just take day in and day out as granted. That was one of the reasons my W left me.
So, if you truly wonder how your H felt and whether he loves you, ask yourself why he felt hurt so much. I don't think it was just because of a sense of loss, or at least potentially losing you. I think it does have tremendous amount of care underneath. It also takes a tremendous amount of effort, even more than what you have put in now, which has been extraordinary to any standard, to bring it out.
That said, your feelings and well beings are still in need of your own TLC. One can only love herself before she can love somebody else. Proceed with the appointment with the lawyer. Get your questions answered. Do something more to take care of your own emotions. I am sure the answers will come into places soon after...
