That's an excellent question, I'm there too. My W is in a different state with friends I've met once or twice who I know are pushing her to get out of this M because all they hear is how much of a pain I am. If you check out www.[censored], he has some information about that but I didn't find any of it to be relevant to my sitch. Might work for you though. Best thing I can suggest is to buy time and make the changes you need to make.
