Here's some brutal advice from a guys perspective (returning the favor when you "said" things to me which I didn't necessarily want to hear....and for that I'm grateful).
Don't expect that he will know what you need him to say. He's hurting, he cares about you, he wants to hold things together, give him a break. If he didn't give 2 S#$Ts he wouldn't be hurting....he'd be rejoicing.
Quote: ...no where in there does it say he wants to be with me...no where in there does it say don't file for d...no where in there does it say..let's do something about us...nowhere in there does it say I don't want to lose you...
- Ask him if he wants to be with you!
- Ask him if he wants you to file!
- Ask him if he wants to do something about "us"!
- Ask him if he wants to lose you!
Quite simply, help him say what you need him to say. He's drowning and you're not throwing him a life line.
Sorry if this was harsh.....it is a riddle of words. Makes sense when you have two people like you and your H who obviously care deeply about each other, are confused, are struggling, but have the best intentions!
