It was nice to see the wedding pictures put back up.

Cool Xue. Really nice.

Although I was very happy she took care of me so well yesterday I'm glad to see her go today so I can get up and do something.

Think about how this appears to her.
It contains two sexually unappealing facets to it.

Did you want to get up, yesterday?
I am not saying dont let her tend to you. Definitely not saying that.
Everybody likes to be needed, and I cant imagine what kind of person doesnt accept a little TLC from others when offered..., but think about it. We all get wounded and need tending too, but what does a warrior due as soon as he is bandaged?

This subordination of women idea is something she has been struggling with for a long time. The phrase "to serve and obey" was removed from our vows at her request.

Have you ever had a conversation about this. I do mean a conversation. You know that thing that occurs between two people who are fearless about what they think.
There will be places you agree, and things you disagree on. When you make emphatic statements about what you believe, its a lot more...reassuring, believable, then when you are trying to defensively convince the OP you agree with them.

"Im not a woman hater. Really I respect you so much. I would never want to subjugate you. You believe me, right Honey?'

I think I just bomited a little.

I say this from my POV. IRL I rarely...hmm...practically never... talk about what I really believe. (it bores me, allready know all that.) I bring up topics and ask questions to find out where the female is coming from and what they believe and how they think. It serves several purposes, but primarily, When I see passion, or any other type of strong statement coming from the OP, I can know what they believe, and make decisions accordingly.

Women like knowing where they stand, with their man. Even when (not if, when) they think you're a complete ass because of it. \:\) Hey a new animal for the zoo. Im an ass. not a stallion. LOL. hee haw. lol.

One word of caution. Before the caution, Im going to pull something from starvinmarvin thread by Sandi
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So, I told him the "thing" he always did that I had told him over and over again and again for thrity years that I did not like. Well, he finally got the picture, but he hasn't made love to me since. Now, I don't think that surely had anything to do with it, but just goes to show you how sensitive people can be about their technique in love making or foreplay! So, after that, I am careful not to mention the rest that I don't like...lol. But, seriously, he always felt like I was rejecting him and it wasn't so much him as it was the "moves" or the technique or "thing" he was doing that I didn't like. But, you try to tell some people and then they don't make love for a couple of decades. What sense does that make?


Ok. So the word of caution is, talk about what you like. Talking about what you Dont like serves no purpose. People do not want to hear what they are doing wrong. Men typically really do not want to hear how they suck at sex. Personnally I like it, cause then I can give her a little of what she likes (climbing the slide ladder) and then a little of what she doesnt (climbing down the slide ladder.) up and down, up and down, untill she says fck this, Im climbing the freaking ladder and going down the slide. lol. hmm I just got a cool idea..

Since women are always running everything you say thru a filter of why did he say that, what does he really mean, instead of listening and believing, talking about what you dont want is going to feel like pressure, or that you dont like them or who knows what. something negative.

If she tells you what she doesnt like,
1. dont personalize. shes trying to help you in her own special nagging, unaccepting, way.
2. Ask her what she DOES like. better yet tell her, 'you know, you might have better succes telling me what you like. we could be here all day listening to what you dont like. my ears are tired just thinking about it. so lets speed things up. ;\) '
3. Tell her if she keeps being a negative ninny your going to take her upstairs and spank her like a naughty school girl. (if you like that kind of thing.)