Michele, You are an amazing lady. You have helped me so much. Just as I am about to tackle the sex starved part you come out with the next book. I have read the first chapter and all the posts on The Sex Starved Marriage. I will buy the book today in hopes it talks about the "lazy selfish lover". My husband doesnt very often take his back off the bed unless he turns on his side. He prefers oral sex for him only. I hope you have a whole chapter dedicated to this. Have a great day Loretta