I did go to the website you suggested (godsaveourmarriage.com) and read the 85 page excerpt-I truly believe that would work but how do I get my H to read it?
I'm not sure how to get him to read it, either! With my H, I left my copy on the bed, and he *just happened* to find it there (after I'd prayed for him to do that!). How long has your H *gone dark?* I'm going to read your asked *I asked my H to leave-regret it, now what?* posts so I can learn a little more about your sitch.
PS: Are you a Christian?
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” - Matthew 19:6