I am an LBS, but I think the attraction can regain strength. Unfortunately your H has to come to a place where he relizes why he is about to lose you and make changes for himself. He has to trust you and you both need to spend good times together having fun, but if H does not make the changes then I see it very difficult. You are an extremely patient and caring person, by taking the lead H may just come around to the point of wanting to do for you without controling, etc.
