I'm not the fan of questions that IMP is. They have their place and may work. But I also think they can be dangerous.
Here is what I actually said in my first post:
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Actually my first thought after reading your post was that you should look you H right in the eye and ask: "Do you want this divorce or not?" As my Cs said if you want to know something you have to ask. And to be honest, things he asked you and said to you are definitely relationship talk type things. He seems ready to talk. Asking if he should tell you when you hurt him is definitely relationship stuff.
The long and short of it is that your emotions are having difficulty dealing with this. You know it. You've told us. It isn't worth analyzing all of that. What you are feeling is understandable. But you have two choices. Put it all out there or detach your @$$ off. The first choice is obviously a high risk/high reward choice. You have to decide.
Asking questions isn't dangerous. Dangerous is walking into the middle of a busy highway. Asking questions is risky, i.e. the answer you receive is uncertain. You have to determine what you can risk. And to reiterate what my counselors said (the guys with the PhDs in psychology and ongoing practices) if you want to know what someone is thinking, you have to ask. They also said you might not get the answer you want. Hence the risk. Of course, setting boundaries can be risky too. At some point, you will have to talk...really talk. Seems like the time to do it is when you are asked. You were asked, CMNM.
You decide, CMNM. Don't overthink. KISS - Keep it simple, stupid. What do you want?
