She Killed and buried it, now want to exhume it!!!

[sandi2]

Oh, well, since we have been talking bluntly......I thought of something else. You can put it in store if you don't need it in the near future. Again, I have to say this is just "me" and not all LD women, ok? This is plain speaking, but when my H is into foreplay.....he takes way too long. He would probably be some women's delight, but he is so "slow" that it kind of kills the excitement for me. I guess I need more "action" or PASSION....yes that's it...."passion"!

You poor men! I know women are so complex it drives you crazy! One time I'm telling you to get us into the mood and the next I'm saying, "but don't take too long".....during foreplay and then the next female is telling you to take more time during foreplay. I feel so sorry for you.

So, now you answer one for me. How do I tell my H without hurting his male ego that I want him to be more of an "action hero" than a ......uh.......librian(?) No, that doesn't sound very nice. I don't know what to compare it to. I think if he came on with more passionate moves that maybe I could heat up more quickly. I have always tried to get it through to him that the more we did it the more often I would be in the mood and the less we did it the less I would be in the mood. I thought it would sink into his skull after so many decades, but it didn't. The things he did I didn't like.....I told him.....but, he kept doing it. Did he think I would change my mind? I finally used a "word" picture like Gary Smalley talkes about doing. I think he finally got that part....but it hurt him a lot and he hasn't made love to me since then. My H hates cheese, the smell, taste....everything about it.....no matter how it is prepared....he hates it. So, I asked him one time what would he think if he kept coming home for dinner to find that I had cooked everything with cheese in it. Had it sprinkled on top of salads, cut up in things, etc. After all....I love chesse and I can't understand why he doesn't like it since I love it. So, If I just keep giving him cheese, surely he would like it. He got angry and said, "OK, I know you are going somewhere with this, but I don't know what you are trying to say." So, I told him the "thing" he always did that I had told him over and over again and again for thrity years that I did not like. Well, he finally got the picture, but he hasn't made love to me since. Now, I don't think that surely had anything to do with it, but just goes to show you how sensitive people can be about their technique in love making or foreplay! So, after that, I am careful not to mention the rest that I don't like...lol. But, seriously, he always felt like I was rejecting him and it wasn't so much him as it was the "moves" or the technique or "thing" he was doing that I didn't like. But, you try to tell some people and then they don't make love for a couple of decades. What sense does that make? But, then he thinks I'm frigid. Well, the OM didn't think so! I don't think I am either. I did choose to stay with my H instead of the OM and I may never know what or if the grass had been greener on the other side. Hell, I may never have sex again......at this point, who knows? I have forgotten what we started out talking about.......hahahahah.