Thanks for your insight. My H used to say all the time that he felt like he was always on eggshells with me - sometimes days at a time. He really didn't have the ability to open up to me. He said that everytime he told me something I couldn't handle it. I can see his point. I'm 1/2 italian and volatility was something prevalent in my house growing up. We had to yell to get our points across - my H is the COMPLETE opposite and I value that about him so much. I want to communicate more like he does, so I'm learning. I never really threatened to leave, but I did say things like, well, I guess we should just divorce then - really it's the same thing, isn't it? That is so difficult to hear. And from my vantage point now, I can't believe I would ever utter such awful words. To this day my H will say some days he think we will make it, and some days he doesn't think we will make it. Those days he doesn't think we'll make it are when I'm particularly volatile.
Anyway, I feel like I'm rambling. Thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate your view point. I think you can provide insight that my H isn't ready to share.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
