I think it is very important to make sure you are getting what you need from H in terms of financial obligation, child support etc.

Why do you feel the need to be "nice" with regard to that? If he doesn't feel the inconvenience what is his motive for re-thinking his actions.

You and I live in the same state so I know that LS is not usually recommended, but in your case, if it means he has to pony up more in CS then do it.

Don't make life so easy for him. Doing ow's laundry there? Not acceptable.

If you are ready to lay down some pretty firm boundaries with him I'd say now is the time.

Good luck,
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