Yes, I do think he knows I'm reliable. And I do know how good this is that he called and opened up like he did. And, further, that he listened and allowed me the chance to voice my own feelings about the situation. So much had been bottled up for so long. I hope it was clear in my post that H did not say he wanted to get back together. He basically said he is now facing the damage he has caused both our lives, and trying to figure out how he is going to climb out of his hole. He said he was so far away from being capable of a relationship right now. Ironically, I'm doing a lot better in my own life and would give him a D if he wanted one. This was not brought up last night, strangely enough. I waited for him to ask but he didn't.
There is one other thing I should bring up; it might be helpful here, not sure. He told me that if I looked at what actually happened I would be able to see how what he was doing with ow was not going to last. He said, "Hope, if I had come to you in a clear, rational state of mind and told you that I was leaving for so-and-so, and then at this point 2 years later I was actually living with this person and in a stable relationship, then yes you could say, 'Well, I guess he met the love of his life'. But that is not at all what I wanted nor what I was doing. I was escaping and using that as a place to run."
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
