DaveJ thanks so much for stopping by! well...duh! Of course what you have said is so true! But two years of lies are not easily forgotten. I would love to not be judgemental. I would love to believe him - BTDT and got hurt all over again. I have no doubt that his lack of opening up has everything to do with my approach (thus the IC) and is also why I am so hopeful for Retrouvaille next weekend. Can't come quickly enough.
"Basically he will shut you out eventually if you keep scaring him when he tell you something you don't like."
so so true! And it wouldn't even be eventually - it would be immediately. I've gotten better at this - believe me. I used to be awful and fly off the handle at any whim - now I'm really not bad at all. Years ago I would have made a snide remark when he commented on the secrets this morning. Today I just said I know this is hard for you - and I do. I see the pain. Just can't help thinking that I'm going to get burned again as he sees OW every day, all day.
Thanks for your thoughts!!!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
