muddled and angry: Puddle's sencond thread

[S.T. _I Made It!]

been outa town for a while. if you haven't gotten a response on the "if you don't, I'll..." question...

why not say, "In regards to any possible future dating, I need you to keep all contact with any OW outside the house. This is for my respect, and I will not allow myself to be mistreated. If this is going to be a problem, then we need to discuss some other alternatives."

Maybe just leaving it open, you won't have to go to those alternatives. But if you do need to discuss them... please don't move out. ask him what he thinks is fair, listen, then validate (without agreeing) and tell him what you need. I don't know that this helps you any, but that's a really tricky subject.

I actually kicked my H out saying if you can't stop talking to her then maybe you need to leave. Well, I regretted saying it and told him days later that I didn't want him to leave sooner than necessary and that we did want him there. If he could please keep all contact out of the house while he was here.

As far as I could tell, he did keep it all outside the house. even left in the middle of the night (to supposedly go to walmart but had an hour convo with OW- it was also after I put out several mushy cards he wrote me in the past...A big NO-NO for DBing!)

hope your doing okay.