Give it up already. I think it is you who is digging your heels in and not wanting to let go.
You do not have to agree so how about agree to disagree.
With regard to an issue such as this, I disagree to agree to disagree. Right is right, and wrong is wrong.
sop
Yeah, it is wrong, but some of us try to understand why it happens. It is extremely puzzling to me but the more I read, the more I think it could have happened to me if the situation were different. Somehow, my H got it in his head that he was entitled to cheat. Of course, the easy way to look at it would be to say that he is a horrible person. I have felt that. But if that were the case I would be jumping up and down for joy that I got rid of a horrible and abusive man. The thing is, and maybe this is denial or love, I remember my H being quite the contrary. To this day, he sympathizes with his coworker who is a LBS and denounces her H of 8 years for cheating!!! But he cannot see that he has done the same thing!
Mkiltra-
What does all this have to do with continuing contact with OP and then DEFENDING continuing contact with OP? You, and others, are arguing something that is much easier to swallow and understand than what I am arguing. I am saying that it's bad enough to have the affair, it makes in MUCH worse to continue contact with OP, and EVEN WORSE to defend it.
