Dave - sorry to hear things are so tough. Just keep working on detaching, letting your W be an adult and deal with things on her own.

One thing though - I really think you both need to tell your son what's going on. I know he's only 4 so you can keep it pretty basic, but I think not telling him is only making it harder on him. He's going to figure it out and right now I bet he just feels like you're abandoning him over and over, I bet. I know that's not your fault or choice, but I think if you tell him you'll ALL be better off.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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