Growing up is hard to do

[NewJourney]

When does support become enablement? When does the supportive W become a doormat? Those are the lines I'm struggling with.

Those are excellent questions, ones that everyone here needs to ask him/herself. And the answers will be different for each and every one of us. Part of the process is making the necessary mistakes until you figure out those boundaries.

Which brings me to:

I don't know who my H is at all. I'm scared by how little I really know him.

Do we ever really know anyone else? Don't even go there. Best to concentrate on knowing all aspects of PS, so you can move forward, as a complete person, flaws and all. The idea is to maintain your esteem and confidence despite your H's behavior. You're getting there!