Umm...I'm with you let's stick with the positive ones. Talk to Saffie and Sara they have turned the situations around.
Yes, let's focus on the positive! I'd been so depressed reading a lot of the posts, and it made me not want to put any more effort into saving this marriage. So many people giving up.
The thing is, I STILL know that my H is a wonderful person, and he was a great husband in many ways. He's always been extremely insecure, though, and he complained for years that he just wanted to feel attractive/desired. He constantly asked me what I thought about his appearance. Any time I tried to compliment him, though, he brushed it off, *Oh, you're just saying that because you're my wife.*
He was a bit of a nerd in school, and never dated much or had a serious relationship until he met me. I fell madly in love with him, and I continue to be in love with him even now (in spite of all this). I played the field a LOT, kissed a lot of frogs, etc. but I knew he was THE ONE for me.
I'm not desperate. I know if the worst case scenario (D) happened, I'd be able to move on with my life, and find a great man. Ironically, he can't stand the thought of me with another man! He told my daughter that he would *flip out* if that ever happened. I don't want to play stupid games and try to make him jealous, though. Maybe a compromise somewhere between GAL and *make him jealous*?
I DID sit next to an attractive man at church today who was by himself, and I thought, hmmm.
Sorry, I'm on a tangent. What was I saying, again? Oh yes, let's keep our thoughts focused on positive things!
Please let me know which threads to follow that will be encouraging!
